Monday, March 3, 2014

The Friend

A week or so ago Melanoma Man announced that his college friend R would be coming to visit, staying with us. Note that I was not consulted on the convenience of this visit or whether I thought it best that R stay at the Marriott. Of course he should stay at the Marriott!!! Undoubtedly this is why MM did not consult me. We live in a smallish 1600 square foot house with 3 bedrooms, a cat, and too many Legos to count. Butter will have to sleep in imac's room. There will be bickering.

 I met R and wife S at MM's college reunion when imac was just over 12 months old and butter wasn't even born yet. R and S are divorcing after 42 years of marriage. I liked S. I had a good feeling about her. She was real. Melanoma Man says R wants to come visit him. Other friends came to visit right away, as soon as they knew of MM's diagnosis. Those were the friends who were truly coming to be friends to MM. Those were the ones who understood the gravity of the situation. R's visit is suspect at best. Seems to me that it is an escape from the reality of divorce and loss. I don't have time to be someone else's escape hotel. I have promised to be civilized, but it will be difficult. Thankfully I will leave the house early each morning and will only have 2 hours or so to spend with R in the evening. Then he will be gone on Friday morning. He showed little concern for Melanoma Man when things were really dicey. I could be wrong. It has happened from time to time. To be continued.

1 comment:

  1. The "I could be wrong"...I am guessing was not on issues that involved your family and dynamics at hand. My $ is on your intuition. Phone call away.